Notes & Quotes from The Four Agreements

Book 1 of 52BooksIn2014:


Quotes that stuck with me


“When we see the world through a computer virus, it is easy to justify the cruelest behavior.


“When we take something personally, we make the assumption that [the other person] know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”


“Wherever you go, you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will also notice that you lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth, because they also lie to themselves.”


“It is always better to ask questions than to make assumptions, because assumptions set us up for suffering.


“If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something we don’t understand, we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all kinds of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.”


“We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel.


“You make assumptions, and one of the assumptions is that ‘My love will change this person.’ But this is not true. Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it is because they want to change, not because you can change them.


“If you live in a past dream, you don’t enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self-pity, suffering, and tears.”

“We need to be aware that we are not free in order to be free.”

“Imagine living without the fear of loving and not being loved. You are no longer afraid of being rejected, and you don’t have the need to be accepted. You can say, “I love you” with no shame or justification. You can walk in the world with your heart completely open, and not be afraid to be hurt.”

I’ll come back to this after letting it sit for a bit.