How I use Path

TL;DR – At a minimum, we have slept under the same roof.

If you are not familiar with the YASN acronym, it stands for “Yet Another Social Network”. Yes, there are actually social networks for people who like to take pictures of their food. And social networks for people who want to leave the shortest reviews ever. And social networks for people who want to watch the same videos at the same time. So, I guess Path is the social network for people who only want to share certain things with certain people.

I have truly truly been blessed to have an unbelievable amount of amazing friends. So, how in the world am I supposed to decide who gets into my Path? One day I realized that the litmus test would be, “Have we slept under the same roof?”

In some ways that filter is arbitrary. But, in practice, it has proven to be a pretty accurate leading indicator of the type of relationship I have with some of my friends. Maybe I’ve crashed on your couch. Maybe you’ve visited our cabin. If we are family, we’re covered. But, more importantly, you always have a place to stay when you’re in my town… and I know I could call you up with my worst news and cry on your shoulder.

More “How I Use”:

5 Secrets of Highly Effective Twitter Users

There’s no way to guarantee success with a Twitter campaign, but you can stack the odds in your favor by following some simple tips to vastly increase your effectiveness. Here’s how to get the most bang for your tweet…

[ via 5 Secrets of Highly Effective Twitter Users ]

You can go read their suggestions. (I might add, “6. If you write articles about twitter, include a link to your twitter account.” But, that is just me. I’m sure Inc. didn’t give Minda Zetlin a say in the matter.)

Personally, I’d stick with:

  1. follow whoever you want – there is no “follower strategy”
  2. listen
  3. be helpful

And a bonus biased comment: twitter is social, social is relationships, if you need a strategy to your relationships something is broken.

relationships with content

“Here’s the thing … it’s all about the relationships you have w/ your people. And people don’t have relationships with content. They have a relationship w/ you.”

[ via ElizabethPW on ]

I *heart* this so much. Mostly because I have a relationship with Elizabeth, which began at a tweetup with Chris Brogan, from which we have quite a few stories, one of which is related to the brokenheartmanifesto, part of which reminds me of Elizabeth’s comment.

Yes, this matters.

I’m proud of your information linking abilities, now what are you doing?

A couple of things have been picking at scabs on my mind:

  • At a recent SVASE event Steve Blank asked whether people were evangelizing the religion or practicing the religion. (mp3)
  • There are a shit-ton (not sure if that’s metric or not) of links and quotations on twitter.
  • “Wanted to buy a book at SFMOMA this morning, but realized I want to *do* instead of *read* in this season.” [tweeted]
  • “My ONE defining metric: does it improve a real-life relationship?” [tweeted]

Before I start connecting all these dots, do you have any to add?

say my name, say my name

I saw this float down my screen today, and it struck a nerve, because I have the same problem:

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At least 12 times yesterday someone asked me, “Do you know [name]?” or, “I was talking to [name] earlier, you know them right?” I had to shrug my shoulders and timidly reply, “I think so?” or, “They sound really familiar…?”. Only to discover five minutes later–once we got into the story a little further–that I *totally* know that person.”

I’m not OK with this.

The why is most easily summed up in Dale Carnegie’s words:

“Remember that a person’s name is to them the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

The sound! It really does go that deep. As in, chemicals are released into your body when you hear your name. (I have a whole deeper level of thoughts about this. If you are interested, please ask.)

The how is a little more difficult. Even though there are about 170,000,000 results for “how to remember names”, the tricks haven’t helped much so far. But, @chrisbrogan is going to kick my ass if I make any excuses. So, it’s time to own this weakness.

Here is where I could use your help: I am not interested in a tip, or a list of tips. (I could read google results for 37.4 days to get those). But, if you could tell me a story about your own mini or major breakthrough with names, I truly believe that will help etch the skill into my mind. (Another one of those ‘whole deeper level of thoughts’ thing you can ask me about, if you want.)

When did you have a remembering-names-breakthrough?